Lesson in Basketball court

5 years 7 months old

Mommy observed that you like outdoor activities. Mommy realized you like to play with the soft ball at home. You like to kick, throw and bounce (soft ball don't bounce back).

I have decided to get a small basketball/netball for you. You were so happy. Bouncing it at home, play ground and at every flat surface you can find. Mommy has decided to bring you to a basketball court this afternoon. You were running happily and starts shooting. As the goal post is for adult, it looks impossible for you to reach it. After a few tries, you ask for helped. Mommy showed it to you. After shooting, mommy said that we need to look for a children's heights basket. I caught myself saying this. Mommy, don't feel good as I have helped you judge the situation we were in. My self talk questioning me by thinking who said children can't shoot at adult's height basket. 

So I kept quiet and left you with the ball. You keep trying. You kept telling me it's too high. Mommy kept encouraging so you can go on. You strength increase as you practice. Eventually, you can throw it as high as the basket. You confident soar when you shoot it! You made it! Wow! You told me that you are proud of yourself. Mommy is happy for you.

I learnt a big lesson from here. As parents/caregiver, we don't judge a situation for a child too early. Let the child decides whether he or she wants to stop trying. We can encourage. Adult's mind are fill with analysis of 'can or cannot do'. Children don't. Children do things as they desire. It comes from heart. That's powerful. When there's a will, there's a way. 

I learn to keep quiet when I see limitation. I need to encourage first and let you decides whether it can be done (Not life threatening situation). Allowing you to decide and make decision will help you in many more decision making to come. This afternoon has teaches us that perseverance pays. You kept trying and you made it. Mommy is very happy for u.