Since 2007, being promoted to 'mommy' is a great deal. I anticipate with anxious and joy upon the arrival of our first born. I am not equipped with an experience as a mom. It's all hands on. We all do. All moms eventually become very good at being a mom. We are at the highest survival skills ever in our life providing to our bundle of joy. We are being put in the lime light and being perceived as expert when our precious arrived.
Over the years, I believe these are the things we did as a mom:
1. A dentist - when our child had food stuck in his mouth, we help to clear it. When our child complain of teething pain, we soothe by cuddling and applying tether gel. We teach them to brush their teeth properly.
2. A doctor - when our child complain about stomach pain, we have to diagnose the pain. Pain cause by anxiety due to attending new school? Discomfort cause by poops accumulation? Pain cause by colic? Pain because of gastric? Discomfort cause by food poisoning? We are getting really good at diagnosing. We can't send them to doctor every time, right? We help clean their wound and help them understand it takes time to heal. We become a walking dictionary for all the possible sickness for children. Eg: type of fever, type of rashes, type of poops..
3. A teacher - We want the best for them. We teach and model valuable life skills. We tutor them during exam. We solve the problem in their homework. We provide a learning environment at home. We feed their curious mind. We spend time talking to them on world around us. We help them make sense in the world they live in.
4. A nutritionist - We ensure they have the right nutrition. We google and read about nutrient in vegetable, fruits and all other food stuff. We read nutrients and vitamins they need daily age appropriately. We model living a healthy life style.
5. A chef - We get very creative in preparing the right food so they will gobble within seconds. We educate them on proper eating habits. We model and practice hygiene food preparation. We restrict them on junk food intake.
6. A finance minister - We educate them to save, invest and spend wisely. We help and empower them in planning their weekly allowances. We do the maths with them so they don't over indulge themselves because of impulse needs.
7. A supporter - We believe and feed their visions on who they want to be. We provide environment and exposure allowing them to experience life age appropriately. We provide opportunity for them to make decisive decision for themselves (age appropriately). We help them to cope with grieve of failure and lift them to soar again. We believe in them and let go when they are ready to 'go'.
8. An event planner - We plan for their birthday, outing, play dates, exercise, Father's Day, brother or sister's birthday, teacher's appreciation day at school and so on. We google to find ideas and best deals. We plan outing with grandpa and grandma. We plan outing that help in fostering family relationship.
9. A helper - We clean everything you can think of in the house. We teach them to sort out their soggy clothes. We teach them to fold their clothes and arrange in their closet. We ensure they pack the right items they need in school. We remind them to drink water.
10. An actress - We pretend when they need us to take part in their imaginative play. We pretend as a sore loser when they want to win. We pretend to see the world according to their paradigm. We pretend to be funny to get our message across.
11. A security guard - We ensure they are safe all the time. We rationalize with them on unsafe situation. We teach them how to handle uncertainty. We provide environment for them to practice.
We become wholesome and wiser because of them. Being a mom has made us flexible to the highest degree. Flexible to handle all the unexpected moment anytime of the day. Flexible to be out of control and be in driver seat again. Flexible to laugh and cheer even at the lousiest moment. We become courageous in making decision for our children and handle the grieve if it's a wrong one. We learn everyday in building relationship with them. With them, we try things we never tried before and be proud of it.
These experience are priceless. Something we can't tag a price tag to it. To all my friends and mothers in the world, I wish you a Happy and Meaningful Mother's Day!
Note :
Some of these scriptures has helped me draw meaning to my motherhood.
Titus 2:4-5 : Then they can train the younger women to love their husband and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to subject to their husband, so that no-one will malign the word of God
Titus 2:6-8 : Encourage the young men to be self-controlled. Inn everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness, ans soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us.
Deuteronomy 6:6–7 : And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
- We are available for them whenever they need us.
Ephesians 6:4 : Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
- We initiate communication that help them process the meaning in their life. We draw limits lovingly and firmly.
Ephesians 5:1-2 : Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children, and live a lofe of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.
- We provide affection and unconditional love irregardless situation. We provide acceptance and constant verbal support even when they fail.
Deuteronomy 4:9 : Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them.
- We leave legacy my modelling integrity and godly life.
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