I don't want to go to school

Ee Rynn: mommy, I don't want to go to school.
Mommy: why Ee Rynn?
Ee Rynn: because I don't like 'Wong lau shi', means teacher Wong. This is her new teacher.

I am thinking how should I address this issue. I choose to understand her intention first.

Mommy: Ee Rynn, mommy understand u had a new teacher recently. But why don't u like teacher Wong?
Ee Rynn: because I want to stay at home. I have lots of things to do at home.

Now I know she wants to stay home and play. Not so much the teacher that she don't like.

Mommy: Yes, I understand you have lots of things to do. However, choosing not to go to school because you don't like the teacher or you want to stay at home isn't the right reason. We go to school to learn, like how u learn Bahasa, Maths, English and Mandarin. Going to school means we have fun with our friends, like you have your best friends Ariel n Amanda.

Ee Rynn: Yes, but I still don't want to go to school. I like to stay home and do my work.
Mommy: cracking her head!!

Mommy: I remember last time, mommy don't like a colleague at work. But I can't choose not to go to work. This is simply because mommy understand why I go to work. It's to learn to earn money, to have friends (colleagues), to share happiness, play with my friends, to learn new things and to meet new friends (customers).

So Ee Rynn, you will have things that you don't like, but your reason to go to school is to learn so you become clever right? And you still get to play with your friend, right? I keep quiet.

Ee Rynn: ok, mommy.

I feel this conversation will go on for a few times before she learns to:

1. Understand that it's important to see the objective of certain things and not to give up half way.
2. Handle her own emotions when it is getting tough to achieve the objective.

The good news is I am there for her for every tough conversation she might brings up next time.
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