On Sunday, 18th July, we have decided to train EeRynn to sleep by herself.
She was crying for 1 hour the 1st & 2nd night. I was very sad too. My intention is good. To train her to be independant. She also wet her pants the first night & second night too. This is a sign that she's stress because of new habit. I am glad that my husband is very supportive.
By the 3rd night, we had an agreement that I sit outside her room door. The 3rd night she didn't cry at all and she slept on her own.
It's the 8th night now, she's sleeping on her own. I am very happy.
This sentence strengthen me : 'No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it' Herbrews 12:11. This sentence is from a book : Boundaries with Kids by Dr Henry Cloud & John Townsend.
Everytime I go through pain ( sad ) when I try to discipline EeRynn, I will read this sentence again. It'll strengthen my faith.
I am talking about helping a child cultivates good behaviour & good habits by setting a boundaries so a child can learn. Not forcing a child to follow our way ya.. Readers, please take note :>
Monday, July 26, 2010
EeRynn teached Mommy makes paper boat
EeRynn learnt to make paper boat on Friday at Choi Chew's house. Before this, my sister teach her few times.
We had some time together on Sunday and she has decided to make paper boat. I told her I don't know how and she said : mommy, EeRynn showed mommy.
She tried to explained to me while she folds the paper. Words like : mommy, fold here.. turn there.. mommy help me hold here.. mommy help EeRynn press.. like this, like that, like this..
Eventually, the paper boat is ready.. I was amazed, very amazed.. God gave me such an amazing child. She folds paper boat at 32 months old.
Oh, She has grown up... very fast...
We had some time together on Sunday and she has decided to make paper boat. I told her I don't know how and she said : mommy, EeRynn showed mommy.
She tried to explained to me while she folds the paper. Words like : mommy, fold here.. turn there.. mommy help me hold here.. mommy help EeRynn press.. like this, like that, like this..
Eventually, the paper boat is ready.. I was amazed, very amazed.. God gave me such an amazing child. She folds paper boat at 32 months old.
Oh, She has grown up... very fast...
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Handling Misbehavior
Daddy was helping EeRynn to brush teeth while mommy having late dinner. As usual, EeRynn will misbehave a little. But this time, she spilt water on the floor in the bed room. Daddy was very angry. He punished her standing at corner. She was crying out loud. She started to shout for me because she knew mommy was in the living room. I was delaying my present to the room.
Eventually, I walked in and sat down. I asked her what has happened. Daddy said she spilt water the bed room.
EeRynn : Mommy, EeRynn wants to go out.
Mommy : Oh, EeRynn can you apologize to daddy first?
EeRynn : Mommy, EeRynn wants to go out.
Mommy : EeRynn, daddy is upset on your behavior. You have wet the room instead of gurgling using your cup.
EeRynn : Mommy, EeRynn wants to go out.
Mommy : Can, say sorry to Daddy and we can go to living room.
“ She walked pass her father and slap her father’s lap”
Mommy : EeRynn, what have you done? ( mommy stop her and put her back at the corner. EeRynn was crying even louder )
Mommy : Now, tell mommy, why do you do that to daddy?
EeRynn : ‘Crying’
Mommy : Are you angry with daddy?
EeRynn : No.
Mommy : Now, tell mommy how do you feel?
EeRynn : ‘Crying’
Mommy : Do you feel sad?
EeRynn : Yes.
Mommy : Why do you feel sad?
EeRynn : ‘Crying’
Mommy : EeRynn is sad because Daddy punished EeRynn?
EeRynn : Yes.
Mommy : Because EeRynn spilt water into the bedroom, right?
Now, I am sure daddy will forgive EeRynn if EeRynn promise not to do that again and apologize.EeRynn : She walk over and gave her father a big hug and said ‘sorry’
We were worried about her misbehavior recently and we discussed above this. I realized that her reaction of hitting her daddy’s lap is not resulted from anger but sad. We predicted that she was upset that she was punished by her father. We conclude this because EeRynn repeated saying she was upset instead of angry when I asked her in a lot of incidences when she show her temper either hitting people or throwing things around her.
Now, at least we know she’s not revengeful. We continue to discuss about her ignorance to our advice especially when we prevent her from doing things that she wants to do. She has the tendency of doing it. ‘Like NIKE tagline :- Just Do It’. We continue to discuss that her behavior could be from her curiosity instead of rebellious. She is just curious to see the cause & effect. ‘If I spilt water, I will wet the floor’.
I remember reading Dr James Dobson’s book – Hide & Seek. He wrote about parent need to be very careful in judging a situation. A situation whether the child misbehave because of curiosity or rebellious/tantrum. If it’s because of curiosity, we parent need to handle it carefully so we don’t break their spirit as a child.
I always remind myself that I need to make sure I don’t discourage EeRynn in trying new things. I will ensure that I set boundaries for her to cope with new things. I hope with this EeRynn will grow up as confident child and have good conscience to make best decision for herself.
Eventually, I walked in and sat down. I asked her what has happened. Daddy said she spilt water the bed room.
EeRynn : Mommy, EeRynn wants to go out.
Mommy : Oh, EeRynn can you apologize to daddy first?
EeRynn : Mommy, EeRynn wants to go out.
Mommy : EeRynn, daddy is upset on your behavior. You have wet the room instead of gurgling using your cup.
EeRynn : Mommy, EeRynn wants to go out.
Mommy : Can, say sorry to Daddy and we can go to living room.
“ She walked pass her father and slap her father’s lap”
Mommy : EeRynn, what have you done? ( mommy stop her and put her back at the corner. EeRynn was crying even louder )
Mommy : Now, tell mommy, why do you do that to daddy?
EeRynn : ‘Crying’
Mommy : Are you angry with daddy?
EeRynn : No.
Mommy : Now, tell mommy how do you feel?
EeRynn : ‘Crying’
Mommy : Do you feel sad?
EeRynn : Yes.
Mommy : Why do you feel sad?
EeRynn : ‘Crying’
Mommy : EeRynn is sad because Daddy punished EeRynn?
EeRynn : Yes.
Mommy : Because EeRynn spilt water into the bedroom, right?
Now, I am sure daddy will forgive EeRynn if EeRynn promise not to do that again and apologize.EeRynn : She walk over and gave her father a big hug and said ‘sorry’
We were worried about her misbehavior recently and we discussed above this. I realized that her reaction of hitting her daddy’s lap is not resulted from anger but sad. We predicted that she was upset that she was punished by her father. We conclude this because EeRynn repeated saying she was upset instead of angry when I asked her in a lot of incidences when she show her temper either hitting people or throwing things around her.
Now, at least we know she’s not revengeful. We continue to discuss about her ignorance to our advice especially when we prevent her from doing things that she wants to do. She has the tendency of doing it. ‘Like NIKE tagline :- Just Do It’. We continue to discuss that her behavior could be from her curiosity instead of rebellious. She is just curious to see the cause & effect. ‘If I spilt water, I will wet the floor’.
I remember reading Dr James Dobson’s book – Hide & Seek. He wrote about parent need to be very careful in judging a situation. A situation whether the child misbehave because of curiosity or rebellious/tantrum. If it’s because of curiosity, we parent need to handle it carefully so we don’t break their spirit as a child.
I always remind myself that I need to make sure I don’t discourage EeRynn in trying new things. I will ensure that I set boundaries for her to cope with new things. I hope with this EeRynn will grow up as confident child and have good conscience to make best decision for herself.
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